Curt Micka, J.D.

Curt Micka, J.D.


Individual conflict coaching and mentoring

You’re competent in every other aspect of your life, but when it comes to conflict, you have only one response. Whether your Conflict Response Mode is denial, aggression, capitulation or avoidance, it’s all you know. Rather than consciously choosing how you want to respond, the response just happens!

If your Conflict Response Mode (CRM) isn’t working for you in either your personal or professional life, help is available.

I can help you identify and understand your current Conflict Response Mode and learn more conscious and constructive alternatives for responding to conflict.  There’s no need to be held captive by the CRM you learned years ago!

Call today to learn whether conflict coaching is for you. You have nothing to lose — and a lot to gain.

As a conflict coach, I can….

  • Help you understand why the same conflict patterns/scenarios keep re-occuring in your professional and/orpersonal life,
  • Help you replace old, unproductive conflict response modes with more productive ones,
  • Help you think through and strategize about how to prepare for and deal with a difficult meeting or discussion,
  • Provide you with support before, during and after a difficult negotiation session,
  • Help you prepare for a mediation session,
  • Help you decide how you want to do your divorce and the professionals you want “on your team” (e.g. an attorney? a mediator? both? an accountant? etc)

Individual conflict coaching and mentoring is ideally suited for executives, managers, supervisors, attorneys, couples or anyone wanting to enhance their conflict competence.

Team coaching

Teams possess gifts – the individual and collective talents and natural strenghts of the members who comprise the team. But all too often, teams end up working at cross-purposes, either internally or externally, resulting in wasted effort, resources, and outcomes. CMS can help teams diagnose their current patterns of behavior and help them move toward shared understanding, recognition of common goals and values, clearly stated strategies, and agreements concerning project responsibilities and time lines.

Couples coaching and mentoring

Our “default” habits of relating to one another all too often result in increased stress, tension and friction within relationships. Wall go up. Intimacy subsides. Emotional distance results.

I can help couples uncover their default habits of relating to one another. Many times, simply seeing what we do, realizing that it’s unconscious and mostly unintentional, and that we’re not alone in going onto “auto pilot” is greatly liberating.

I can work help you see where your relationship gets stuck and how you can begin to communicate and act with more compassion and kindness toward yourself and your partner.



From Inner Critic to Inner Wisdom  June 23-25, 2017   Madrid, Spain

The Triadic Nature of Conflict Transformation at the 2017 IEA European Conference in Helsinki, Finland   September 22-24, 2017

Befriending Your Inner Critic at Unity Church in Golden Valley, MN   October 22, 2017   1:30 – 3:30 pm

Transforming Conflict with the Enneagram for the IEA Korea Affiliate, Seoul, Korea, November 25-27, 2017


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